You probably didn’t consciously choose to head into this season of deconstruction.
You just looked around one day and realized you weren’t sure what you believed anymore. Now it feels like everything is unraveling and you don’t have any say in what’s happening to you or your faith.
Nothing seems absolute and concrete. Everything you used to be sure of seems questionable at best.
So how do you make choices that will stick? What if you make the wrong choice? And how do you even know what the options are?
✔Having supportive systems, processes, and practices to help you navigate the gray areas of faith.
✔Feeling encouraged and hopeful instead of constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop.
✔Having all the encouragement you need to avoid getting stuck in the old toxic religious beliefs that you so desperately want to be free from.
All on your schedule, from the safety of your own home, without having to go back to that unhealthy church.
The good news…
No matter how out of control things feel right now, you get to choose what happens next and…
you don’t have to figure it all out on your own.
Deconstruction should always be a personalized journey and it's important to have a guide who understands how hard it is to challenge everything you were taught to believe.
And that's where Seeking Soul Resonance comes in...
I’m excited to introduce Seeking Soul Resonance, an on-demand course that will teach you how to navigate decon in the healthiest way possible.
This isn’t a step-by-step plan that tells you what you 'should' believe - we both know you don’t need more of that.
Instead, this 6 module on-demand course is created to help you stay anchored in yourself while you deconstruct. Deconstruction is all about examining what you believe, exploring the nuances you weren’t allowed to explore before, and choosing if that belief is worth keeping.
This course will help you do that without completely losing yourself in the process.
In Seeking Soul Resonance I will help you identify what's most resonant with your soul and discard what isn't, because I truly believe that a healthy faith is the natural byproduct of openness and curiosity.
You’ll learn how to:
- Confront your privilege and dismantle the thinking patterns that are so harmful to you and the people you love
- Create a supportive environment for yourself to fight the isolation of stepping back from your faith community
- How to reclaim the sacredness of self and release yourself from the way others have defined your body, mind, and soul
- Make decisions from a soulful place that’s anchored to your truest identity
- Embrace the grey and explore the expansiveness of faith
And you’ll do it on your own terms
I'm Angela, a Faith Deconstruction Coach with 11+ years of experience in ministry, and I'm here to tell you the choice about what you believe is (and always should have been) yours to make.
For years, you’ve been told that you have to believe certain things to be welcomed, loved, and ‘deserve’ safety.
They taught you to push aside your natural intuition and curiosity, while pressuring you to fit in.
But that’s all changing now, because you’ve realized how small you had to make yourself to fit into their box.
Now you’re taking back your power, your voice, your body.
You’re remembering how to choose what’s resonant with your soul and take up more space, even when that rocks the boat.
Because choosing not to follow their rules will certainly upset the establishment, and that’s a good thing.Let's Rock This Boat!
"Angela helped me to gain a new relationship with my Creator & myself..."
both of which are without limits & not confined to any sort of 'box'. When I first started deconstructing, I quickly became overwhelmed at all the toxicity I was finally noticing in the religion I used to be a part of. It was physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually painful. But, I went from someone who avoided feelings at all costs (even when I was alone), always relying on the opinions of others, to someone who has more tools in my toolbox to continue in growth. I now trust myself (including my feelings) to shape my own path, even if it means nobody is leading me. Before this course, I was about ready to give up on God altogether.
"She has helped me to be brave and for that, I am truly grateful."
It was refreshing to be coached by Angela because I came from a very conservative background. She empowered me to become ALL that God has created me to be, not just a portion. I appreciate her honesty and intuition immensely. She always has the right words to say, even in the most difficult moments.
Owner and Artist,
Robin Kraft Design
" Angela is the perfect guide for this journey...."
I decided last year that I needed a coach to walk with me as I deconstructed/reconstructed my faith and relationship with "church". Angela brings a depth of knowledge, kind spirit, and is the best kind of coach...the kind who helps you find the answers within!
Coach and Founder,
Messy is Wonderful, LLC.
Seeking Soul Resonance introduces you to the same tools that help my private coaching clients deconstruct their faith and heal from #ChurchHurt
Here's a peek at what we will cover in Seeking Soul Resonance...
Why Vulnerable Exploration?
In order to dismantle unhealthy beliefs and systems, we have to unlearn the behaviors that support those harmful systems. In this module, we will dive into what vulnerable exploration is and how it helps us untangle from toxic religion.
Healing As Resistance
You’ll need all of you if you’re going to untangle from toxic religion. In this module, we explore the ways tending to ourselves and healing our deepest wounds frees us from others’ expectations.
Reclaiming The Sacredness of Self
Your body is sacred and deeply connected to the Divine, which means you have access to that connection, even if you’re not in traditional religious settings. This module teaches you how to show up for yourself fully.
Soma & Soul: Embodied Decision Making
Top-down thinking patterns support the existing systems that are designed to protect power. In this module you'll learn a bottom-up process rooted in your identity supports healthy, holistic, equitable systems.
Finding Soul Resonance
Now that you’re connected to yourself and able to embody bottom-up decision-making, it’s time to learn how to break down the unhealthy beliefs toxic religion told you to believe. This module presents 8 steps you can use to take on bad doctrines, hate, and abusive theology.
How to Pack Your Bags For Deconstruction
In this final module, we will discuss how to set yourself up for success in deconstruction by anticipating your needs and the places you might get stuck. You’ll learn how to build supportive practices into your daily routines so that you always have your own back, even when it feels like no one else does.
It’s important for you to know that there’s no hidden agenda to get you to believe what I believe or save your faith at any cost.
It might feel easier if I told you what to believe, but deconstruction requires us to loosen our grip on certainty, embrace our questions, and honor our power to choose.
Vulnerable Exploration encourages you to ask questions that may have been off-limits before, without pressure to have the ‘right answers’ or conform to the expectations of an unhealthy faith community.
The choices you make are truly yours to make, perhaps for the first time ever.
Imagine being in a space that nurtures you spiritually, without having to compromise your beliefs or pretend to be someone you’re not.
Plus, you get to do all this from the comfort of your own home. No travel, no crowds, no pressure to fit in. No one even has to know you're taking this course unless you want them to know.
You get to explore the content at your own pace, in your own space.
Seeking Soul Resonance is perfect for you if you've got one foot out the door of the church and find yourself longing for that deep connection with your Creator that was so real.
As a certified life coach, seminary-trained online pastor for 11+ years, and a Faith Deconstruction Coach I have a lot of experience helping people navigate faith...
but deconstruction is also very personal for me.
I learned to be a people-pleaser at an early age because we moved a lot, and it felt like I was always the new kid trying to figure out where I fit in.
When my hubby and I started going to church in our late 20s (because “it would be good for our kids”), I was ecstatic to find out that the rules and expectations were pretty cut and dry. It didn’t feel like legalism; it felt like an instruction manual that laid out a plan for “How to be a better person” and, perhaps more important to me, “How to be accepted.”
After a few years of being deeply embedded in the church, I walked away with a pretty big case of #ChurchHurt and entered a season of deep doubts and wrestling. I was deconstructing from toxic religion, even though (at the time) I didn’t know that’s what it was called.
It took years of self-love, therapy, coaching, and trauma recovery to create a healthy spiritual life that actually nourishes me, without pressure to be who people think I should be…and that’s my hope for you!
Not that you’ll believe what I believe or practice what I practice, but that you’ll find healing and learn to curiously explore what your soul is longing for most.
I would be honored to be your guide on this journey.
Let’s Deconstruct Together.
You won't be pressured to believe what I believe or practice what I practice.
Instead, you'll have the support you need to find healing and curiously explore what your soul is longing for most.
I’ll be a guide walking beside you, not a guru directing your every step so that I get the credit for your happiness. (Gross, right? But we know it happens alllll the time in Christian spaces so let’s just agree not to go there, K?)
Instead, let’s go through the looking glass and get curioser and curioser about the wild sacred holy spaces you’re capable of creating ❤️